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Vanity Under the Sun

April 19, 2022

“Vanity of vanities, says the Preacher, vanity of vanities! All is vanity” (Ecc. 1:2).

I’ve been reading Ecclesiastes in my quiet time. Every time I read through the book, it feels like someone turned on the light in the dark recesses of my life, pointing out things I hadn’t noticed before. It would be like if a gemologist were to look up close at my wedding ring and point out that it doesn’t really have diamonds in it after all. I’d then look at it with new eyes and notice its flaws. What once was shiny would quickly lose its luster. I’d realize that what I once thought was valuable, had no value at all. This is what the teacher does in Ecclesiastes; he shows us the vanity of life under the sun.

Throughout the book of Ecclesiastes, the teacher shares insight into his own life experiences. He has pursued everything there is to pursue in life. He’s tried it all. He’s accumulated it all. He’s witnessed it all. And he’s found little to write home about. He sums it up as meaningless or vanity. The Hebrew word used for “vanity” in Ecclesiastes 1:2 is hebel. It means vapor or breath. It’s a word that describes the transitory nature of things. It’s like a breath that is breathed out and immediately dissipates in the air. Hebel describes things that have no form or structure, they are empty; they cannot contain anything.

The teacher uses this word throughout the book to describe life “under the sun.” That is, life from our earthly, finite perspective. The teacher observes that people work hard, they pursue and enjoy the pleasures of this life, and then they die. All that they have worked for is then passed on to someone else who won’t appreciate it or will likely lose or waste it. All the pursuits and pleasures of life, once experienced, are gone. The things we put our time and energy into all too soon fade away. They lose their luster. They show themselves worthless.

Vapor. Breath. Meaningless.

I can’t help but think of the early church father, Augustine. He pursued the pleasures and vanities of this life. He looked for meaning and purpose in things, relationships, knowledge, and experience, but found them fleeting. He wrote in his work, Confessions, about his life, “For it was my sin, that not in Him, but in His creatures—myself and others—I sought for pleasures, sublimities, truths, and so fell headlong into sorrows, confusions, errors.” He even tried various religions and philosophies, thinking they would help him find what he was looking for, but he still felt restless and lost. It wasn’t until he read the Bible and was converted to Christ that his restlessness finally stilled. He wrote, “Thou madest us for Thyself, and our heart is restless, until it repose {rest} in Thee.” When Augustine found Christ, he found what his heart longed for all along.

It isn’t until we see things from a different perspective, from “above the sun” rather than “under the sun,” that things change. It’s when we see the world in light of eternity that we see what truly matters—what truly satisfies. Then we see that the pleasures we’ve labored so hard to achieve are really like playing in the mud when we could enjoy a trip to the sea. As C.S. Lewis describes, “It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.” The truth is, the little joys of life exist to point us to the greatest Joy. We’ve wasted precious time dancing with shadows when we could have experienced Life itself.

Ecclesiastes reminds my heart how easily I confuse the shadows for the substance. It reminds me that when I focus my life and heart on things “under the sun” and forget about the One who rules “above the sun” I am only grasping at vapor, with what is fleeting and temporary. The teacher reminds me that life is meant for something greater, for Someone greater. That real life—real fulfilling, lasting, meaningful, glorious life—is found only in the One who created it.

The teacher ends his book with this conclusion: “Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man” (Ecc. 12:13). We don’t know much about what is above the sun other than that God rules over the universe. We don’t know much about eternity past, other than that God has always been there. We don’t know what will occur in eternity future, just that it is in God’s hands. In the span of time, we are but vapor; our lives are merely a breath. The conclusion then is this, to live our lives in the fear of the One who knows all things. To live for his glory and praise. To live for and pursue that which is lasting, that which is eternal, that which is of substance.

And that’s where real Joy resides, not in the shadow, but in the substance.

In God's Word Tags Ecclesiastes, idolatry, meaning, purpose, wisdom, Joy
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When a Christian Writes

April 12, 2022

When I began writing seriously—not just for my own benefit to process my thoughts and feelings—I had many questions. In many ways, writing was a new and unfamiliar world, complete with its own language and vocabulary, rules and expectations, cultural mores and norms. I felt like a visitor, holding a passport but wanting citizenship.

I remembering asking my questions to any writer who was willing to listen. What kind of questions did I ask? Anything from the process of writing to how to grow in writing to what it means to be a Christian who writes. I also wondered, what does a writer do with the fact that many people have written on the same topic? If, for example, others have written on the topic of prayer or sanctification or suffering, how could I think I have anything to add to the conversation? After all, as the teacher noted, "What has been is what will be, and what has been done is what will be done, and there is nothing new under the sun” (Ecc. 1:9).

One of my favorite tutors on all things writing is C.S. Lewis. Christian Reflections is a collection of his essays and in his essay titled, “Christianity and Literature,” he describes the Christian writer in contrast to the unbelieving writer. “The unbeliever is always apt to make a kind of religion of his aesthetic experiences…He has to be ‘creative’; he has to obey a mystical amoral law called his artistic conscience.” Lewis describes modern literary criticism as exalting what is spontaneous, free of rules, innovative, and nonconforming.

But the believer in contrast is an imitator. "Our whole destiny seems to lie in the opposite direction, in being as little as possible ourselves, in acquiring a fragrance that is not our own but borrowed, in becoming clean mirrors filled with the image of a face that is not ours…the highest good of a creature must be creaturely—that is derivative or reflective.” As image bearers, created to image the One who created all things, our art is imitative art, meant to point to the Original Artist.

Further, Lewis notes, “Applying this principle to literature, in its greatest generality, we should get as the basis of all critical theory the maxim that an author should never conceive himself as bringing into existence beauty or wisdom which did not exist before, but simply and solely as trying to embody in terms of his own art some reflection of eternal Beauty and Wisdom.” This means we find our joy, not so much in building an identity as a creative, but in using our creativity to express the beauty and truth and wisdom of God.

While our art is imitative, it doesn’t mean it will all be the same. God created a diverse humanity with diverse voices and talents and experiences. This means that while we might write on the same topics, we write on those topics out of our God-given diverse gifts and experiences. You and I could both write on the topic of prayer and end up with two different pieces that while different, both point to the wonder and glory of the God who hears and answers our prayers.

The prophet was right, there isn’t anything new under the sun. But this doesn’t mean we shouldn’t write on a topic because other writers have already written on it. The question we ought to ask ourselves isn’t is what I’m writing new? but does what I write reflect the beauty and wisdom of God? Is it good? Does it bring him glory?

“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God” (1 Cor. 10:31).

*Photo by Luca Onniboni on Unsplash

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Coming Soon: God Hears Your Heart

April 5, 2022

Last year, my first children’s book released, titled Tell God How You Feel. My intention for the book was that parents would use it as a discipleship resource in helping their children learn how to lament—how to bring their emotions to the Lord in prayer.

I’m excited to announce that a follow up to that book, God Hears Your Heart, will release on May 13. This book follows the same family from Tell God How You Feel. In this book, children will see how Josh and Mia learn how to talk to God about feelings such as: anger, disappointment, failure, and more. Discussion questions help parents talk about these emotions with their children.

Here’s what readers are saying about the book:

“If emotions are complex for adults (AKA, me!) to understand and respond to appropriately, how much more for children? This is why I’m so glad Christina has given us a helpful tool for guiding our kids through emotions like disappointment, anger, and failure. Best of all, she roots each lesson in biblical truth, particularly in the psalms which give voice to our hearts. I recommend this book to you!”

—Kristen Wetherell (Author of Humble Moms, Fight Your Fears, and co–author of Hope When It Hurts)

“… a wonderful resource for children. It accomplishes the difficulty task of turning children toward the Lord with their hard and unruly emotions without moralizing or excusing. Especially good on the disappointments every young human struggles to deal with and full of good advice and easy engagement for parents, this book is a must on every child’s bookshelf!”

— Alasdair Groves (Executive Director of CCEF)

God Hears Your Heart is available for pre-order now. Reserve your copy today!

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A Parent's Prayer

March 29, 2022

As a parent, it seems I always have some pressing concern for my children—those concerns which keep me up at night and follow me around like a shadow all throughout the day. Sometimes, it’s an unanswered question about parenting for which I’m desperate to know what to do. Or I may have a difficult decision to make regarding one of my kids and don’t know which way to turn. It seems I always have worries and cares for them that I long to see resolved like those regarding their health, relationships, education, or their future.

I imagine you have concerns and cares for your children as well. In my book, Like Our Father: How God Parents Us and Why That Matters for Our Parenting, I look to our Father in heaven for wisdom and guidance about all those concerns, questions, and cares we have for our children. I look at the ways he perfectly parents us and what we can learn from him in parenting our own children.

One of the things I encourage readers to do is to bring all their cares to their Father in heaven. At the end of each chapter, I provide a prayer for parents to pray. So what are your concerns for your children today? What questions loom at the front of your mind each day? What burdens do you bear regarding your children? Your Father in heaven invites you to bring all those cares before him in prayer.

A Parent’s Prayer

Father in heaven,

What a privilege it is to come before you in prayer! It means I am your child and you are my Father. I am your beloved and an heir of your kingdom. I am no longer an orphan but have been brought into your family and given a forever home with you. Your word tells me that you know all the cares of my heart before I even do, yet you invite me to bring them to you in prayer. I can’t help but think of my own children coming to me, asking for my help, and how glad I am to help them and provide for their needs.

You are my perfect Father, loving me before time began. You show me what a parent does for his or her children. You provide for all my needs. You set boundaries for me and teach me the way of righteousness. You discipline me for my good. You are patient and kind with me. You are consistent in all your ways toward me. In all these ways and more, you care for me as your child. Help me to learn from you what it looks like to raise my own children. As I parent them, I pray they would see you through my actions and responses. I pray my parenting would show them who you are as their perfect Father.

Forgive me for putting me hope and trust in parenting methods and strategies to make my parenting “work.” While these strategies can be and often are helpful, when I trust in them instead of you, my heart turns from you. I yield my heart to those lesser things, looking for them to make my life better, instead of you—my source of life. Forgive me for not loving my family the way you have loved me. I am easily frustrated and impatient. I am prone to expect things of my children I wouldn’t even expect of myself. Forgive me for forgetting that my children need the same grace I need—the grace you’ve provided through Jesus Christ. Help me to keep the gospel at the forefront of my mind and heart as I parent my children.

The Bible tells me you are the source of all wisdom. I come to you with many questions about raising my children. How do I…? Every day there are decisions to be made. I often feel ill-equipped in my parenting and just don’t know what to do. I need your wisdom to know how to raise my children—what to teach them, how to correct them, the best ways to respond to them, and how to love them well. Father, please help me as I seek to raise them in a way that honors you. Grant me the wisdom only you can give.

I long for my children to know you as their Father. I know you love them more than I ever could; you love them with a perfect love. Help me to trust you and your work in their lives. May they never know a day when they did not know Jesus as their Lord and Savior. May they grow and mature into godly young adults who live for you and your glory. Protect their minds and hearts from evil all their days.

Please hear this prayer for my parenting. I cling to your promise in 2 Peter 1, that you given me “all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence” (v.3). Grant me all I need to parent for your glory.

In Jesus’ name, amen.

*Photo by Bethany Beck on Unsplash

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On Motherhood, Memories, and How Quickly the Present Becomes the Past

March 15, 2022

My son and I got into the car one recent morning to head to school. As usual, he got out his ear buds case and began putting them in his ears.

“When you put your ear buds in, it makes me think you don’t want to talk to me. Or maybe it’s just that you don’t want to listen to me,” I said with a smile.

He laughed and put them away.

It didn’t used to take so much work and prompting to talk with my children. When they were young, all they did in the car was talk. In fact, I think sitting in the back of the car created an ideal place for them to talk to me. We weren’t looking at each other in the eye. We were captive audiences to each other.

In those days, they’d ask whatever question came to their mind:

How does a car engine work?

Why do the birds sit on the powerline like that?

How does the music come through the radio?

There was also a running commentary about whatever they saw out their window:

Mom, look at the shape of that cloud!

Why is that car going so fast?

Can we stop at the smoothie place? Please?

Then there would be emergency interjections like:

I have to go potty right now!!

Or I’m hungry, when will we get home?

One time, we were returning home from an appointment and my son complained that it was taking FOREVER to get home. We reached a traffic light and I said, “Let’s see how long forever is. I’ll time it from here. How about you take a guess as to how long you think it will be.”

In case you were wondering, forever is exactly 7 minutes and 42 seconds.

I thought of all these things as I sat in the car beside my son on the way to school. It wasn’t long ago that he sat in an infant carrier behind me, his face looking at the rear of the car. In order to see his face I put a mirror on the seat behind him so I could see him in my rear view mirror. Now he sits taller than I. Later this year, he’ll get his learner’s permit and the year after, his license. And then the season of driving children will be over for me.

If there’s one thing that is true about parenthood is how it’s always changing. Just when I get used to one stage, a new one appears. Lately, I’ve started to feel that way about the teen years. They’ve become like my favorite pair of jeans, soft and worn and comfortable. I know what to expect from my kids and they know what to expect from me. We’ve worked through the stiffness and kinks of those early adolescent years. But my oldest leaves for college later this summer and with that comes a new season of parenting a young adult. Before long, his brother will follow.

After my son put his ear buds away, we chatted all the way to school about the latest news in the world, his friends, and what he is learning in school.

I then tucked those moments away with all my other memories of motherhood, realizing just how quickly the present becomes the past.

Photo by Robin Edqvist on Unsplash

In Parenting Tags parenting, motherhood
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A Free Resource for You

March 8, 2022

Dear Friends,

With the release of my book, Like Our Father: How God Parents Us and Why that Matters for Our Parenting, my publisher and I wanted to create a fun resource for you and your family.

These conversation cards are a fun way to connect with your family, create memories, and disciple your children. The cards include serious questions, not-so-serious questions, and even silly challenges to do. Order or bake a pizza, sit around the dinner table together, and take turns answering the questions. It’s a simple way to grow together as a family!

To get your Family Conversation Cards, click here, print them out, cut them out, and put them in a bowl on the dining table. Enjoy!

Blessings,

Christina

In Like Our Father Tags Like Our Father, parenting
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